Saturday, February 24, 2018

INFJs


More intriguing but mildly unsetting parts about INFJs

1) INFJs are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. (You will only hear my voice when I feel injustice. Fighting is a waste of energy).
2) Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants. (I used this on someone tough this week and made him think that he won).
3) INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. (I do this all the time. Works 80% of the time. 20% of time, people are made of stone).
4) Remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days. (VERY TRUE. If I want to talk to you I will look up, otherwise I'm deep in thought and you must go away NOW.)
5) INFJs are enthusiastic in their relationships, and there is a sense of wisdom behind their spontaneity, allowing them to pleasantly surprise others. (Capable of this, but it very rarely happens because many people do not deserve it).
6) INFJs are often perfectionistic and picky. People with this personality type aren’t easily talked into something they don’t want, and if someone doesn’t pick up on that, it’s a trespass that is unlikely to be forgiven. (my dad calls this "ti ki").
7) When it comes to intimacy, INFJs look for a connection that goes beyond the physical, embracing the emotional and even spiritual connection they have with their partner. (Jialat).

Friday, February 23, 2018

When Befriending (Or Romancing) Me Was Hard

Just did a pre-conference personality quiz, where i'm just 1% of a personality type called "Advocates". This is part of what it says about my attitude towards friendships (the section on romantic relationships is equally troubling lol):


"In friendship it is as though Advocates are searching for a soul mate, someone who shares every facet of their passions and imagination. From the start, it can be a challenge to get to know Advocates, as they are very private, even enigmatic. Advocates don’t readily share their thoughts and feelings, not unless they are comfortable, and since those thoughts and feelings are the basis for Advocate friendships, it can take time and persistence to get to know them. Meanwhile, Advocates are very insightful and have a particular knack for seeing beyond others’ facades, interpreting intent and compatibility quickly and easily, and weeding out those who don’t share the depth of their idealism."


As such, i would like to apologise to anyone, if you ever experienced any form of unintentional pain in the process of getting to know me. thank you for persisting through the hardship, and i hope our friendship has been a meaningful addition to your life

Friday, February 16, 2018

失恋,然后呢

结果呢,失恋不可怕。更大的失望,我曾尝过。这还不及从前的一半。

年纪大了,不再不堪一击。我站得住脚。

可惜了, 在脑子酝酿的故事。剧情编不下去,没有结局。






只是脑子有一处声音不停回荡。

我不相信你已婚。

Sunday, February 04, 2018

爱自己

明天这个时候我就失恋了。相隔上回太久了,我不记得这是什么心情。但我已经是熟女,应该扛得起这份失落。


明日的策略是且战且行,他问什么我就答什么,不多不少。最重要的是做自己,爱自己,认真为自己的健康负责任。


然后一切回归平静,云淡风轻。

Monday, January 15, 2018

连名带姓



作词:葛大为

零七年 那一首定情曲的前奏
要是依然念念不忘 太不称头
早放生彼此 好好过 都多久

你怎么像标本 杵在我心里头
后来的那几个 又没做错什么
他们口中自私的我
犯了偷窃时间的错 复制贴上你的爱

也很精彩的你 不甘寂寞
这圈子不太大 多少听说
欣赏你流浪 像是种信仰
我真这么想

再被你提起 已是连名带姓
谎称是友谊 却疏远得可以
多少人爱我
偏放不下你 是公开的秘密
只剩你没拆穿我

再处心积虑 终究事不关己
哪来的勇气 我就是不灰心
我且爱且走
其实在等你 是仅有的默契
你会不会又错过 我没有把握

算不清 多少个跨年夜一起过
要是依然念念不忘 太不称头
早放生彼此 好好过 都多久

你怎么像标本 杵在我心里头
后来的那几个 又没做错什么
他们口中自私的我
犯了偷窃时间的错 复制贴上你的爱

也很精彩的你 不甘寂寞
这圈子不太大 多少听说
欣赏你流浪 像是种信仰
我真这么想

再被你提起 已是连名带姓
谎称是友谊 却疏远得可以
多少人爱我
偏放不下你 是公开的秘密
只剩你没拆穿我

再处心积虑 终究事不关己
哪来的勇气 我就是不灰心
我且爱且走
其实在等你 是最后的默契
要是我们又错过 就别再回头

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久久一次会遇到一首攻入心脏的歌曲, 任由它回荡在心间,一直可扩散、蔓延,百听不厌。